Alyce Galea, Psychologist
Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to identify, use, understand and manage emotions in a positive way to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathise with others, overcome challenges and diffuse conflict.
Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of your daily life, such as the way you behave and the way you interact with others.
If you have a high emotional intelligence you are able to recognise your own emotional state and the emotional states of others and engage with people in a way that draws them to you.
You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at school, and lead a more fulfilling life.
Emotional intelligence consists of four attributes:
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Alyce Galea, Psychologist
Emotions such as fear, anger, grief and many others can negatively affect us long after the original event that caused them.
When our body fails to “let go” of these emotions we can find ourselves with unexplained hatred, self-sabotaging behaviours, destructive beliefs, phobias and many chronic physical problems.
Why Do People Bottle Up Their Emotions?
What Happens When You Pent Up Your Emotions
Ways to release bottled up emotions
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Alyce Galea, Psychologist
It is essential that our young people learn how to manage the intensity of their emotions, and work through their emotions in a healthy and helpful way.
It is not something that that we are inherently born knowing how to do, so it is important that parents and/or caregivers help facilitate a safe space for children to learn emotion regulation.
Here are 5 important tips to help you help your children:
1. Be warm, accepting and responsive to your child’s emotional needs
3. Accept, support and show empathy to validate their feelings
4. Be patient
5. Try not to ignore, dismiss, discourage, punish or react negatively to emotions, especially negative emotion
By being in touch with your own emotions and being mindful of how you manage them, you can be a role model for your children and help them feel safe to express their own emotions in a healthy and helpful way.
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Did you know that the average person can have up to 60,000 thoughts in one day?!
Even without being fully aware of what we’re thinking, our brain is often going a million miles per hour.
And a lot of what we think is negative, and the same worries that we had yesterday.
This makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, because our ancestors needed to constantly be scanning their environments for threats and pre-empting any potential dangers.
Helpful when being attacked by a sabre toothed tiger was a legitimate concern, but not so much in our day to day lives!
Here are some quick tips if you find yourself worrying a lot...
- try to catch yourself when you’re having a negative thought
- ask yourself “Is this thought true and helpful?” and “What might happen if I choose to ignore this thought?”
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Do you know the phrase “Making a mountain out of a molehill”?
This can be all too familiar for people who experience anxiety
One fleeting thought can trigger a spiral of related thoughts and worries
And almost immediately what might have seemed like only a minor worry has become an overwhelming thought
When you notice yourself spiralling, it can help to stop and question the thought
You might want to ask yourself whether the thought is a fact, and try to find evidence to support or debunk your worry
You’ll likely find that the thought is just that...a thought!
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I recall reading this quote in an article about the importance of dealing with your emotions, and it really resonated with me
“When you’re busy trying to numb your emotions, your emotions are in the next room doing push ups”
Unfortunately, uncomfortable emotions such as sadness or anger don’t magically disappear when we don’t want to feel them
The longer we try to push away unwanted emotions, the stronger they might become
So instead, we need to learn how to lean into the emotions, and to “feel all of the feels”
We shouldn’t fear our emotions.
They are all part of the human experience!
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For some people who experience symptoms of anxiety, it can feel like an all consuming tug of war with their own internal monster.
The monster, in this instance, represents your...
- anxious thoughts
- your concerns
- your “worst case scenarios”
How physically and mentally exhausting must it be to constantly be fighting against your own thoughts?
But what might happen if you drop the rope?
Imagine how freeing that would feel!
When you notice yourself fighting with your thoughts, acknowledge that you’re in a battle of tug of war, and choose to let go of the rope.
If you are needing support to manage your anxious thoughts, please contact our clinic to book in an appointment
Tim Walker. Mental Health Clinician
The Tiger Who Came to Tea is a children’s book. A young girl is surprised when a tiger enters the house at dinner time.
Naturally this is an unexpected and difficult disruption!
Rather than avoiding or resisting the tiger, the young girl offers it some tea. In fact, the tiger eats absolutely everything! The girl decides to accept him. The more food the tiger needs, the more she offers him. The girl and her family make room for the tiger, and finally it leaves.
If we think of the tiger as anxiety knocking at the door, this story is a great example of using mindfulness and flexible thinking, individually and as a family, to manage anxiety.
Whilst not based on mindfulness concepts, this story is a good analogy for sitting with anxiety in our lives, to better manage mental health.
Seeing what is true, we hold what we see with kindness